☕️ A long time ago, in a galaxy far far away, I met an ex-boyfriend for a coffee.
☀️ After some small talk there came a natural but heavy pause.
? Out of the deep well of my Soul, there came a rush up through me, as though I had just hit on a new oil reserve, and I found myself saying the words ‘I forgive you.’ As the words left my mouth, they immersed us both -as though we were now standing under a powerful cleansing fountain.
? His head dropped and he began to cry. ? I felt my heart release.
? We sat in quietness, in the knowledge that something was now complete. I never saw him again, and our shared time together became a closed chapter in both of our life stories.
? Saying those words didn’t come easy. They came after months of trauma, crying, lies, revelations of promises broken, late-night phone calls, a thousand apologies, and rollercoaster emotional drama.
? Amidst all of this, I just wanted peace. I wrote. I talked to friends. I shouted on top of windy hilltops, and when I was ready I met him, at his request, for a coffee.
Saying ‘I forgive you’ can be a very powerful completion to a painful story. But is it always a good thing to say “I forgive you?’ Are there times it can backfire, or even make things worse?
☀️ In this Livestream, on Wednesday 18th November 7p.m (UK time) we will be exploring the subject and exploring why, when, if, and how to say it.
This and other free talks can be accessed by joining the FB group: ?www.facebook.com/groups/ForgivenessHeart. (please answer the membership questions for access).
?♀️ The talk is given by Helen Tanner Forgiveness Coach @helentanner.com.
We look forward to welcoming you in the group.Blessings and Peace, Helen